The Cocksure Soul Podcast Episode 2: Thoughts and Energy in Communications

ArlenJ.com June 2, 2020 Warning: this blog post contains explicit language Arlen J was born in Texas. He was raised under that proverbial “southern gentleman” guise. Always be polite, say “bless you” when someone sneezes, go to church every Sunday, etc. Granted Arlen still has a relationship with God, albeit different from the childhood version. ….  Read More

Mike Tyson: From Egoless to Ego-Go

ArlenJ.com June 1, 2020 The word “ego” traces back to the early 19th century. It translates to “I” in Latin, meaning the self. Of course “I” is a personal pronoun in English, referring to one’s self. Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud expanded on the concept of ego with his 1920s personality theories. He posited that the ….  Read More

5 Characteristics of a True Alpha Man

ArlenJ.com May 31, 2020 A 2014 Psychology Today article questioned whether alpha males were myths or reality. The author, a female psychologist, listed three traits that indicate social dominance for men. Height was the first one. She cited studies that showed taller men have more leadership roles and are very popular online dating targets. Deep ….  Read More

Lowering testosterone levels is promoted to protect men from COVID-19

Arlenj.com May 10, 2020 We’ve written about the ongoing war on men previously when we discussed the psychological fallacy known as “toxic masculinity.” The American Psychological Association is not only discouraging healthy heterosexual relationships between men and women, but is also insinuating that masculinity is a disorder. They use words like “heteronormative” and “traditional masculinity” ….  Read More

Toxic positivity means living in denial

ArlenJ.com May 9, 2020 A scene from the 1989 romantic comedy “When Harry Met Sally” showed how toxic positivity can be detrimental in relationships. Harry had just seen his ex-wife with another man and was very distraught. Sally, his female friend and confidant, tried comforting him with her trademark cheekiness that is made more effective ….  Read More

Finding opportunities during the coronavirus pandemic

ArlenJ.com May 1, 2020 States are beginning to reopen their economies and restore some semblance of normalcy to society. But men are feeling the economic pinch, consumed with anxiety and uncertainty. The U.S. unemployment rate is expected to hit 15% or more when numbers are released next week, according to MarketWatch. These are unprecedented numbers ….  Read More

Depression, anxiety rampant among young American men

ArlenJ.com April 30, 2020 The COVID-19 pandemic notwithstanding, young Millennials and Generation Z are not happy. The youngest Millennial – those born from 1994-96 – and oldest Gen Z men (age 18-23) have one thing in common. They’ve only known a world with internet and smartphones. Correlation does not equal causation. But it certainly provides ….  Read More

There is no universal definition of happiness

ArlenJ.com April 19, 2020 The timeless children’s song “Happiness Is…” shines a spotlight on the simplicity of such a complex concept. Happiness is two kinds of ice cream, knowing a secret, climbing a tree, Happiness is five different crayons, catching a firefly and setting it free. Children have uncorrupted mindsets that can turn the most ….  Read More

Manifesting dreams, goals into reality

ArlenJ.com April 18, 2020 Ask any five-year-old child right now what they want to be when they grow up. Some aspire for the near-impossible, like professional basketball player, actor or President of the United States. Others want to be doctors, detectives or lawyers. But chances are when you contact the same person 20 years later, ….  Read More

Agōgē principles raised rugged Spartan warriors

ArlenJ.com April 11, 2020 The English term “spartan” is derived from the Ancient Greek city-state by the same name. The Peloponnesian Wars consisted of two prolonged conflicts between Athens and Sparta. The First Peloponnesian War spanned 15 years, from 460-445 BCE. The Thirty-Years Treaty ended the war. But tensions remained high between the two city-states. ….  Read More